One's personality is both a composition and reflection, but if I have to choose one of them, I will choose reflection as the "self" is more important to me than "me". One's composition may change, walking across the cultural landscapes and climbing the social ladder but one's self is tied to one's reflections. The fun part is that reflections are not bound to "Time-Space" barriers ( it is not time-space) and respective mental constructs, which have grown so thick over ages, that they had reduced the image of humans to Sisyphus, rolling different sizes of boulders on hills of different heights.… As the name of this Blog indicates, knols are my perspectives on topics of interests, sweet/bitter experiences or just doodling :)
Monday, November 28, 2011
To my personal experience...the sense of insecurity comes from isolation and there are several barriers that creates these isolation,
Planted insecurity comes from social sense of "us" and "others". Children with strong sense of "others" feel insecure when they go among "others" even when they grown adults and have started their practical life...The sense and feeling of insecurity follow them.
Though it is natural to feel isolated at the beginning or it takes time to be accustomed to new environment where you are less familiar but if this sense exists in familiar places because of existence of "others" then it is a deep effect of "planted insecurity".
1. The class barrier:
Overprotectionism in rich families isolates their children from rest of society. So when these children are grown elders they feel difficulty to interact with rest of society. It might not a bad analogy if we say that they are like "greenhouse plants" or "laboratory species" that lose their fitness because of growing up in controlled and conditioned environments.....
2. Culture barriers:
The same way that Overprotectionism in rich families bears "greenhouse plants", the Overprotectionism of society also plants insecurity among child. In West the children under 18 is deliberately isolated from other age groups to protect them. It is a way of denying to learning naturally the basic practical skills that children need in their later ages...Because of isolation from other age groups, it takes times depending on their exposures to learn basic skills needed and meanwhile suffer from planted insecurity...
Another ugly side of the planted insecurity is living outside of the family. Family teaches the much needed skills to interact with society and children who lives mostly outside of families’ especially in dorms or in boarding schools miss the basic skills that they would get from their families and their interaction with real life...
It is funny to say...but it is true that men and children are wild and require an art to domesticate them..This art is not taught in schools, colleges and universities and needed to be learnt from family, from real life. Grown up adults who lacks these skills suffer in their real life.. From their partners and their kids... it is planted insecurity.
The poor family who can't afford parenting and educating their kids and have religious tendencies, the religious schools provides an opportunity. In religious schools that get isolated from society because they live in these schools and are not exposed to outside world, diversity of opinions and competitions and also do not learn the skills to communicate and compete so once they are grown up adults and are exposed to rest of world..it is a shock for them. The people in society do not look normal to them especially people from other beliefs...it is the worst kind of planted isolation... that sometimes gets violent...like Taliban movements...